Happy Mother’s Day to all the moms, moms-to-be, moms who have suffered losses, step moms, mother-in laws, birth mothers, adoptive moms, selected moms, single moms, grandmoms, and every other “mom” type out there that I may have forgotten! It’s YOUR day! CELEBRATE IT! That is a bonafide Jillee order! :-)
Oh I know how it is! Sometimes Mother’s Day can be the absolute WORST day! It’s all about expectations….and when they aren’t met….disappointment and disaster can ensue. But not today! Today….no matter WHAT happens….no matter what goes right or wrong….I hope you will ENJOY and CELEBRATE being a Mom!
I want to tell you a little story.
Last Sunday afternoon I was heading to MY Mom’s house for a get-together. My brother from California was visiting, so we decided to get together for dinner. I was very much looking forward to the afternoon as my boys and I (the hubster was out of town on business) headed towards my parents home which is roughly a half hour drive through a beautiful mountain canyon. We didn’t make it to the canyon however.
Just outside of town…all traffic was being turned away because (we learned later) of a head-on collision car crash that had happened a few hours earlier. I’m embarrassed to admit…I was more than a little irritated by this turn of events because the only other alternative to get to my Mom’s house meant a 1 1/2 hour detour down another canyon in the opposite direction. Which now in the light of all that has transpired since that moment is such a minor inconvenience that it really doesn’t even merit mentioning. But I mention it in my story because it turns out the incident that caused a minor interruption in my Sunday afternoon, also caused the loss of 4 lives…including a Mom, who was also a Grandma, a Dad, who was also a Grandpa, their two year old grandchild and an unborn child in the other vehicle involved. All from my small town.
It’s been a rough week in this community I live in. A week filled with reflection as many people I have spoken with have echoed the same thoughts and feelings I have had about how fragile life is.
Yesterday I had the opportunity to help in a small way with the funeral arrangements for the husband and wife and their granddaughter. As I drove by the parking lot and saw the 3 white funeral coaches parked side-by-side, it hit me…HARD. Tomorrow (Mother’s Day) there would be sons and daughters missing their mom…moms missing their children, grandkids missing their grandma, grandmas missing their grandchildren, brothers and sisters missing their siblings….and on and on. I could hardly breathe for a moment as I contemplated this.
The sadness and grief threatened to overwhelm me, even though I didn’t personally know the family. But at the same time…that moment of painful clarity also served a higher purpose. It reminded me, once again, how fragile the threads that run through our family tapestries are, and how important it is to REALIZE this and make the most of each and every HERE and NOW moment!
Including Mother’s Day! What better day than today for CELEBRATING the most important people in our lives and the gift of having them in it!?
I hope you will.
I know I will.
My mother is always with me…
She’s the whisper of the leaves
as you walk down the street.
She’s the smell of bleach
in your freshly laundered socks.
She’s the cool hand on your brow
when you’re not well.
Your mother lives inside your laughter.
She’s crystallized in every tear drop.
She’s the place you came from,
your first home…
She’s the map you follow
with every step that you take.
She’s your first love
and your first heart break…
and nothing on earth can separate you.
Not time, Not space…
Not even death…
will ever separate you
from your mother…
You carry her inside of you…